Part of realistic planning is putting time aside for your own preparations. Whether it’s outfit shopping, makeup testing, dance practice or even writing a speech, setting time aside just for planning your own essentials for the day itself is as important as helping your child with the same process. More preparation means less stress, which is good for everyone.
We have some great general mother of the bride or groom tips for you that will help you enjoy the ride with less of the pressure so you can enjoy the special role you have in your child’s wedding.
Being the mother of a child who is going to be married is an exciting time – and maybe even a little bit stressful! Every parent-child relationship is different, but these tips should help give you a general idea of how to start off and keep going on the right foot.
Set Your Role Early On
Once the marriage plans are in motion, talk to your child about what they may expect of you and what you can do to help them. Even if you (or your child) think certain parts of your involvement may be automatically obvious, it’s worth confirming expectations with each other to avoid confusion later on down the line. Which brings us to…
Whether it’s the issue of money or volunteering duties, be open and honest about what you can and can’t provide. Traditionally, the bride’s parents paid for her wedding, but this is becoming less common as modern couples take a more bespoke attitude to all aspects of their wedding. Talking frankly about finances and other areas of support that you may provide will help your child solidify their plans for the celebrations, and remove a potential source of pressure by avoiding false expectations, over-promising, and under-delivering.
Weddings are strange things, they’re supposed to be for you and your betrothed to celebrate your union, but in reality they are really just huge expensive parties to impress, placate or otherwise pander to as many friends and family as you can afford.
However, having accepted the fact that a successful wedding is one that keeps as many guests happy as possible, why is it that so many brides and grooms stick rigidly to old traditions that only annoy or inconvenience those guests? Continue reading →